Monday, December 26, 2011

Cabin vs Camper

Since Ken and I first started camping at age 18, the summer we got married, we have loved being in the mountains. For several years we did primitive camping in the Allegheny Mountains near Marienville, PA. Most of the time back then, Ken’s sister, Barb and her husband, Ed, went with us. It was Ed who introduced us to this area, being familiar with it from hunting.
On one of our first camping trips the four of us went for a hike down a dirt road.  We enjoyed the quiet solitude, the beautiful trees, the lush greenness of the area, and an occasional cabin hidden in the woods. After walking a good distance, we came upon one camp that looked as if no one had used it for a while. In the front yard was an old wooden picnic table. One by one we sat down on the table to rest. I was the last to sit down. At that time, I was rather thin, weighing about 103 pounds. But for some unknown reason, when I plopped my then skinny butt down on the bench, the table decided to break. All these years I have held the responsibility of breaking some camper’s table. And no, we didn’t leave a note telling them who did it! We took off.
But from that day on, Ken and I have talked about owning a cabin in the mountains and retiring to it. We pictured ourselves living there year round with wood stacked on a front porch near the door to keep us warm in the winter. We pictured watching out our window while deer came to a salt lick that we would provide. We envisioned the family coming in the summer and staying for extended weekend vacations or using the cabin when we were not, if we bought one before we retired.
We would have two sources of heat to make sure we were warm. During the summer, we would chop and split wood and stockpile it to get us through the winter. We would have propane or electric heat available as a backup. We would have phone service and once the internet came about, we added that to the list of must-haves. We prefer to have running water inside with a bathroom. An outhouse wouldn’t be as bad in the summer but I can’t imagine trudging through the snow on a cold winter night to take care of nature’s calling.
The cabin wouldn’t have to be big. It would need at least one bedroom, a living room with enough space to have a pull out couch, maybe somewhere for bunk beds for the grandkids.  The kitchen and living room could be one big room as long as there was space for a table and chairs and some countertops. A shed would be nice for storage of tools and things. The driveway needn’t be paved, gravel would be fine.
As for location- woods, woods, woods. A creek or lake nearby would make it ideal but is not a must. I would love to sit outside the cabin and hear the trickle of water as it spilled over the rocks in the bed of a creek. There was one cabin in the Allegheny’s that I told Ken I wanted when we retired. It was built above a creek, and the setting was absolutely beautiful.  It was obvious that it was built to take full advantage of the view of the creek and to watch the water tumbling over rocks right in front of the cabin.  If I remember correctly one would have to cross over the creek to get to the cabin built on the side of a hill. The cabin was surrounded by trees, lots of pines for sure.
All of these wonderful dreams have not completely faded away but in recent years we have been camping in the luxury of a fully equipped trailer.  To pursue our older goal would rob us of our current idea of traveling the country, living in campgrounds along the way, and visiting places we have wanted to explore. Currently we long to be full-time RVers. We volunteered as camp hosts at Mosquito Lake State Park Campgrounds to gain experience to take with us along the way. Our plan is (was?) to take our home on wheels wherever we want to go, find a campground we like, and do volunteer work there to pay for our stay. Some places require a longer commitment while others do not. Depending on the weather, we could be in whatever part of the country we chose, living as Ken puts it, “homeless and trailer trash.” 
Another option we have been exploring it is to keep our camper at Leisure Lake the entire year and to purchase another camper in a campground where the winters are warm and the campground is open year round. We could travel between the two “homes” as we chose. To follow through on this idea would eliminate the dream of seeing the country and would keep us in two places throughout the year. 
Following one’s dreams is not always an easy choice. All three ideas appeal to me. On any given day, one or the other idea is more attractive, depending on my mood. I think I could be happy in any of these scenarios as long as I can be out in the woods, near water, or watching the animals and creatures in their natural habitats.

Saturday, December 24, 2011

MERRY CHRISTMAS!

I hope everyone reading this has a wonderful Christmas! Enjoy your family, the great food, and all the festivities of the season.

I will enjoy watching my grandchildren's excitement on Christmas Eve while they wait to see if Santa shows up and wonder what he might bring. Watching them pass out the gifts they have chosen for everyone is also a lot of fun.

We have the family at our house on Christmas Eve for dinner, then we do our gift exchange. We'll visit the grandchildren on Christmas Day at their house.

Whatever you do for this holiday, enjoy!

Thursday, December 22, 2011

To Give or Receive?

We are trying something different in our writing group. We will take turns coming up with a "prompt" for our group to write about. When I came home and told Ken I had the first prompt he gave me a suggestion which I thought was really good.

He said, "Ask the group to write about when (if) they realized it was better to give than receive."

Over the next few days, I tried to formulate how I would write about that topic. It was interesting but I couldn't pinpoint any particular time when I actually realized I enjoyed giving more than receiving.

Memories came back to me of shopping at Christmastime as a child. While in gradeschool my sister, Bobbie, and my two brothers, Wes and Jeff, and I would usually shop at G.C. Murphy Store for our gifts. We would each have a dollar or two to spend. At that time, there were five children in our family, our parents, and two sets of grandparents. Our younger brother, Tom, was too young to shop then.

We would pool our money together to buy gifts and would put more than one name on the tag in the "From" section. We must have been good at mathematics because we made those couple dollars go a long way.

Coloring books could be had for 5-10 cents each, puzzles were not too expensive, and our parents and grandparents got some wonderful ashtrays and Christmas ornaments over the years.

One particular Christmas, Wes, Jeff and I found that "perfect gift" for Bobbie. It cost more than we usually spent on one gift but we all agreed it was so nice we had to get it for her. Somehow we came up with the two to three dollars this beautiful ring with the yellow/gold stone cost. We were so excited to see her reaction when she opened it. I'm sure somewhere in the depths of her jewelry box today this ring would still HAVE to be there!

I'm not sure but I think this was the same year that I ran out of money. I had only one more gift to buy and it was for my mother. How could I not have a gift for my mother? It was unthinkable. Of all people, you HAVE to have a gift for your mom.

I agonized over this and worried what she would think. I didn't want to hurt her feelings or make her think I had forgotten about her. So I wrote a card for her and put it under the tree. I explained that I had no more money to buy something for her. I wrote something to this affect, "When you read this, I have a kiss for you. I love you Mom."

I still remember her getting up and coming over to me to collect that kiss. She reassured me that my gift was perfect.

Sunday, December 11, 2011

Kudos, or Boos? Tears or Smiles?

I got an email Friday morning from my daughter, Karin, telling me that Aaron made it to the final round of the spelling bee for fourth grade. Friday would be the last round before he could win. He had his heart set on winning and was determined not to let one particular student win over him.

"If he wins, I get to go watch him in the school spelling bee," she wrote.

Friday morning he told her he wished he could call her to tell her what happened, but they all knew the results would have to wait until after school.

I called their house around 4 pm to see how he had done and to congratulate him on getting so far in the bee and hopefully for winning it. The boys had already gone to their Grandma Jackie's house and no on answered. I would have to wait to see what happened.

A while later I got a call from Karin who seemed distressed. "Aaron didn't win," she said. "He wanted it so bad. Some of the kids in his class asked the teacher if they could give their place to Aaron if he misspelled a word before them. She explained that wasn't allowed. Another classmate, Nick, said if it was between him and Aaron he would spell the word wrong so Aaron could win."

It sounds to me like Aaron had a lot of friends rooting for him.

"He made it to the final three. Guess who won?" Karin asked.

"The student he wanted to beat the most?" I guessed.

Wrong answer. "Nick?" I tried again.

"No. Worse than that. Andrew beat Aaron out," Karin said with a heavy heart.

"Andrew? I didn't know he was still in the final round," I exclaimed with a smile on my face.

"Me either," Karin replied, "but somehow he was still in for his class."

"Wow that's great!" I said. I was so proud of both of my grandsons and one of them had won.

"No it's not Mom! Aaron said he felt worthless and was so disappointed."

How does a mom handle a situation like this? One son wants something so bad and the other son, his twin brother,  takes it away from him. Should she cheer for Andrew or have heartbreak for Aaron? I think she felt both but didn't know how to show either emotion without hurting one of her sons.

Being a mom, a diplomat, a cheerleader, and a shoulder to cry on all at once is a big responsibility.

Congrats to both Aaron and Andrew for going so far in the spelling bee. Karin will get to watch the school spelling bee but without Aaron in it.

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Treasures in these Walls

Recently I was cleaning up the storage area of our attic. I moved all the Christmas decorations which take up most of one side of the storage area into the big area of our attic. While sweeping and scrubbing the floor I paid more attention to where the floorboards do not meet the outside wall of our house. I wondered if anything could have or did fall into that space.

So downstairs I go to get a flashlight so I can do some investigating. Walla! I found great treasures....plastic eggs from Easter egg hunts, straw from Easter baskets, and lots of dust. But then my eye caught an area that appeared to have a piece of paper down there. I shined that light right on it and couldn't believe my eyes. There was an envelope sitting in there. Wonder why I never saw it before? Oh yea, all those boxes of decorations and wrapping paper were blocking it. So down on my hands and knees I go to retrieve this mysterious envelope. I wonder if it was here when we bought the house? I wonder whose letter it is?

When I pulled it  out of the space, there was not only the envelope but also another letter behind it. Oh boy, this is going to be interesting.

I checked the address on the envelope along with the post date. All of a sudden lights came on in my head. The envelope was addressed to the parents of  "........" and the post date was 1990. The return address was our local junior high school.  The letter inside along with the letter found behind the envelope were both reports to parents on the actions of a child.

I laughed out loud when I realized it took 20 years for this letter to come to light. After Ken came home, we took it across the street to our son's house.

After greeting him and Marissa, Ken pulled it out of his pocket and I announced, "You're grounded!"

Kenny laughed and said, "That's why you never got it. What good would it have done? I would have just been grounded and I would still end up where I am now."

And where he ended up is fine with me. He is a good and smart adult, responsible and dependable.

If I knew then what I know now, I would have done some things differently.

Now, I wonder what else is stuffed in the walls of that old house?